I’m going to start this essay by first explaining what “sugaring” is. It’s an ages-old way to remove body hair. It’s a ball of sugar, water, and lemon. The provider rolls the sugar ball around and flicks their hands with the sugar to pull out hair from the root. I absolutely love getting my pubic hair sugared off. Since I was on my menstrual cycle, I wore a menstrual cup to my sugaring session.
My favorite way to remove body hair is by sugaring. It’s more painful but lasts so much longer. I’ve always been self-conscious of my pubic hair. I was posting my hair vulva on r/hairyspussy for a while, but a few years ago I discovered that I like having a large triangle of hair above bare pussy lips.
Sugaring is something I look forward to every month. It’s expensive, but it’s part of my self-care. I decided to get it done two days ago because it’d been so damn long since I last got sugared. Unfortunately, I happened to be on my period, and I was having some difficulties with my menstrual cup. Now, I was on my menstrual cycle last sugaring, and all was fine. But, this time, my cup kept leaking menstrual blood.
I told my aesthetician that my menstrual cup may leak a little and that I’d like her to tell me if it’s uncomfortable for her. She said period blood does not gross her out, as long as I was wearing a menstrual cup or a tampon. So, I went ahead and undressed from the waist down, laid on a towel, and waited for her to come in.
Oh god, why did my menstrual cup do that?
This woman is a fucking angel, I swear. As we went along with the sugaring, she told me that I was leaking a bit was all fine. I was thankful that it wasn’t too bad… until I asked to see the ball of sugar. I like seeing the ball full of pubic hair. She hesitated before showing me, and she held up a red-tinted ball of sugar and pubic hair.
I was appalled. I apologized profusely as she took off her gloves and got a new pair of gloves and fresh sugar. It wasn’t an embarrassment that I felt; I just felt bad I put her in that situation. As she continued, I couldn’t stop apologizing, and I told her to stop at any time. She told me not to worry about it and that she’s had worse. I was just so horrified that I’d accidentally put her in that position.
It’s astonishing to me that I wasn’t embarrassed. I know I wouldn’t be comfortable sugaring someone who was bleeding so much, even with the mensural cup. In fact, when I got off the towel, there was a little pool of blood beneath me. I have never bled enough to leave a *little* pool of blood at one time. But, of course, my body chose this moment to fucking go at it with my period.
I told her next time I won’t come in when I’m on my period, but she told me she books up quickly, and I should come in when I need to. Tampons, to me, are the worst, but I’m going to give that a try next time I get sugared in case I come again on my period. I love that I wasn’t embarrassed. I hate that I put her in that position accidentally.
Have I mentioned this woman is a fucking goddess?