I’m going to start this essay by first explaining what “sugaring” is. It’s an ages-old way to remove body hair. It’s a ball of sugar, water, and lemon. The provider rolls the sugar ball around and flicks their hands with the sugar to pull out hair from the root. I absolutely love getting my pubic hair sugared off. Since I was on my menstrual cycle, I wore a menstrual cup to my sugaring session.
My favorite way to remove body hair is by sugaring. It’s more painful but lasts so much longer. I’ve always been self-conscious of my pubic hair. I was posting my hair vulva on r/hairyspussy for a while, but a few years ago I discovered that I like having a large triangle of hair above bare pussy lips.
Sugaring is something I look forward to every month. It’s expensive, but it’s part of my self-care. I decided to get it done two days ago because it’d been so damn long since I last got sugared. Unfortunately, I happened to be on my period, and I was having some difficulties with my menstrual cup. Now, I was on my menstrual cycle last sugaring, and all was fine. But, this time, my cup kept leaking menstrual blood.
I told my aesthetician that my menstrual cup may leak a little and that I’d like her to tell me if it’s uncomfortable for her. She said period blood does not gross her out, as long as I was wearing a menstrual cup or a tampon. So, I went ahead and undressed from the waist down, laid on a towel, and waited for her to come in.
Oh god, why did my menstrual cup do that?
This woman is a fucking angel, I swear. As we went along with the sugaring, she told me that I was leaking a bit was all fine. I was thankful that it wasn’t too bad… until I asked to see the ball of sugar. I like seeing the ball full of pubic hair. She hesitated before showing me, and she held up a red-tinted ball of sugar and pubic hair.
I was appalled. I apologized profusely as she took off her gloves and got a new pair of gloves and fresh sugar. It wasn’t an embarrassment that I felt; I just felt bad I put her in that situation. As she continued, I couldn’t stop apologizing, and I told her to stop at any time. She told me not to worry about it and that she’s had worse. I was just so horrified that I’d accidentally put her in that position.
It’s astonishing to me that I wasn’t embarrassed. I know I wouldn’t be comfortable sugaring someone who was bleeding so much, even with the mensural cup. In fact, when I got off the towel, there was a little pool of blood beneath me. I have never bled enough to leave a *little* pool of blood at one time. But, of course, my body chose this moment to fucking go at it with my period.
I told her next time I won’t come in when I’m on my period, but she told me she books up quickly, and I should come in when I need to. Tampons, to me, are the worst, but I’m going to give that a try next time I get sugared in case I come again on my period. I love that I wasn’t embarrassed. I hate that I put her in that position accidentally.
Have I mentioned this woman is a fucking goddess?
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Thank you for this, for this normalization. I still struggle a great deal with period shame and this kind of openness is absolutely the remedy for that. Plus, yowza, what a sexy photo!
<3 I was feeling like being silly in the photo. And I'm so glad I can kinda help with the period shame. I think you saw the sexy photo with a pad I took (here it is in case you didn’t see it) and I’m going to do a lot more period stuff, I think. I think soon I can skip my period with my birth control pills but I’m tempted to just keep having periods to work on this period shame.
Yeah, I would hate to put someone else in that position
She was so great, though. I kept asking her if she wanted to stop and she just kept on going
I think I would feel the same way. I often struggle to deal with my own period (yeah, I know I run a period positive meme 🙈) and feel awful ‘inflicting’ it on someone else. Let me highlight, these are my feelings towards mine and I’m not shaming anyone here.
But I think the woman sugaring you was amazing, we definitely need more people like her. At the end of the day a bit of blood is a bit of blood, no matter where it comes from. Thank you for sharing this, I love hearing about the positive stories!
But leakage is one of the reasons I dislike cups, I keep reverting back to tampons because I find them more reliable and comfortable *for me*.
I didn’t leak like this before this darn session! Of course this was the month and day my cup chose to leak. I needed to fit it better. I’ll be more careful in the future. That lady is wonderful! I understand struggling to feel okay with your period, I feel that way too. I was worried she’d worry about getting some sort of blood-born illness, b/c that’s what I’D be worried about but nope. She wore gloves and she trudged on! I love your period-positive meme. I’ll have more for you near the end of the month 😉
This is interesting. I had never heard of “sugaring” before as a means to remove body hair. I might have to try it.
Do! It’s more painful than waxing, though. The nice thing is that it’s better for penis-havers which is awesome. Waxing can hurt their junk and isn’t so safe. My wife got sugared with no problem.
first time i’ve ever heard of sugaring, i feel like ive learned something today
Haha you have! It’s not something I’d heard of ’till I was on the waxer’s table.
Is sugaring more painful during your period?
I didn’t think it was more painful. Just… messy and I felt bad.
She sounds so sweet! I have yet to try a cup but I’ve heard good things