When I was in my preteens my mother had a talk with me. She said that orgasms are a healthy part of life and it’s important to have them regularly. I believed my mother but seeing it as a book cemented that idea; so, I dove right in.
Dr. Natasha Janina Valdez, a licensed clinical sexologist, introduces the reader to women’s sexuality and explains the health benefits to orgasms. As a well-read, sex-positive woman I didn’t learn anything that was new although, had I been a “beginner,” her explanations were a perfect introduction to the woman exploring herself.
She places great emphasis on self-love which is wonderful. Too many women are devoid of self-love and Valdez is determined to make women comfortable with their bodies. The book was well organized but I found that a lot of the ideas were repeated. Now, this could be a good thing as this book was dedicated to a beginner but I wanted something more. I do commend her for encouraging women to show their lover (she uses the male pronoun when she talks about a woman’s partner) how they like to be touched. This can strengthen a relationship and bring both partners pleasure they didn’t know they could have.
Overall, the idea was great and her advocacy for women to explore their bodies and find what they like was very sex-positive. For a woman who is in the process (or about to start) of making herself into a orgasmic woman, this book is a must. For those who already know their likes and dislikes, this is a good reminder.
